Inner Peace

We live in a world of Opinions and Judgements. Whatever we do is judged and criticized not only by the outsiders but even by our friends and family.

It’s only a matter of time how we react to the criticism of others. Some May provoke you by will. But reacting to those people will destroy your peace.

Do what you do. Haters gonna hate. Don’t take anything personal. Everything others do is for themselves.

You don’t search for peace outside. It’s already within you. It’s clouded by your confusion of others opinions and judgements. You can see past the cloud by knowing your own value.

You are what you think you are. Don’t let the behavior of others destroy your inner peace.

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The Highway Terror

I jerked when the car suddenly stopped. I was half asleep. Mom, dad and myself were returning home from a ceremony. It was late night and my stomach was growling with hunger.

I opened my eyes to see what happened. I can hear my Mom whispering to my dad, “run the car through”.

Run the car through what? , i thought and looked out of the car. I let out a shriek and shut my mouth with my both hands. My hands were shivering. No, my whole body is shivering.

I couldn’t believe what i saw in front of me. It stretched its hands on both sides. It was covered in a red cloth. What terrified me is it didn’t have a head. But i can see it staring right through me.

What happened next almost gave me a heart attack. It started moving towards us. My dad didn’t think twice. He turned off the head lights and revved through as fast as he can. I heard a thud. Did we hit that thing?

He didn’t stop the car. He turned on the head lights. I screamed as loudly as i can. It was it’s red cloth and it was covering the wind shield of the car. My dad lost control and steered through the woods breaking the highway barrier.

We crashed in a tree. My Dad and mom was unconscious. I opened the door and stepped outside. My vision was blurry. I could hardly stand. The air was thick. The car tail light was flickering on and off. I saw it. I saw the shadow, the shadow of a headless body moving towards me grimly.

Separation of Mind and Self

The Mind is imbued with Ego where the sense of ‘I’ arises. Thoughts originates from the mind. But the Self, which is pure consciousness resides in every living things. The Reality what we experience is an illusion. The Perception of reality differs from person to person. The manifestation of ‘I’ gives birth to sorrows and miseries in this world.

“What is real? How do you define real? If you are talking about what you can feel, what you can smell, what you can taste and see, then real is simply electrical signals interpreted by your brain.”

-The Matrix

The purpose of our life is the Realization of the Self. To achieve this we must try to separate our Self from the Mind.

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Frequency Illusion or Why Some Words Are Chasing Us

Frequency illusion, or the Baader-Meinhof phenomenon, is a cognitive bias which describes a curious psychological fact: after learning some bit of new information we start noticing it everywhere else. We can’t help marvelling at how it follows us and take it merely as a funny coincidence. Yet there’s nothing coincidental in it and the explanation is really simple.
Evidence shows frequency illusion happens just too often to be treated like a mere coincidence. It repeats and repeats, so it’s clear there’s something more about it. Even back in the 16th century Francis Bacon wrote:

“The human understanding when it has once adopted an opinion (either as being the received opinion or as being agreeable to itself) draws all things else to support and agree with it.”

Why Baader-Meinhof? The name was first articulated by one of the readers of the St. Paul Pioneer Press. In his letter to the editors he explained that after reading about the Baader-Meinhof group (a radical political group in Western Germany) he started seeing the name everywhere.

Pattern Recognition as Our Fundamental Ability

Human brains are extremely good at recognizing all kinds of patterns and it’s one of the things which makes them much more powerful than any computer developed so far.

Our ability to recognize patterns means we can categorize everything we see and hear around us – people, images, symbols, sounds, colors, etc. This ability links very closely with our memory, sense, thinking and studying. We take it for granted, yet the moment we open our eyes thousands of cognitive processes we cannot sense are triggered in our brain.

Frequency Illusion in Action

Every day we see thousands of things. Do we remember every last one? Clearly not, no one is capable of that. We only remember things which for one reason or another are interesting to us and somehow stand out from the rest. It can be something new, unfamiliar, but which caught our attention and stuck to our minds. We thus distinguish them from everything else that’s surrounding us.

This is called selective attention.

We memorize just several facts but are inclined to overestimate their significance – “If I learned and remembered it then it’s really important, isn’t it?”

That single thing seems to appear in the most unexpected places afterwards. But the truth is it had already been there, notwithstanding your knowledge of it! You didn’t know it beforehand and didn’t notice, that’s it.

Surely most of us have probably experienced this cognitive bias at least a few times. Some people even expect things they learned to appear soon afterwards, taking it as a natural consequence.

Encouraging Active Learning Is Important

The Baader-Meinhof phenomenon only proves once again we pay attention to things we are looking for. At the same time we overlook countless things that surround us and which we can notice at any moment and for which the Baader-Meinhof phenomenon might work as well.

Finally, frequency illusion shows us the importance of active learning: the more new patterns we reveal to ourselves the more spacious and beautiful reality can unfurl before us.
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20 Psychology Tips for a better life

Here are some Psychology tips to improve yourself and communicate with others efficiently.

1. When you are approaching a situation that would make you nervous like public speaking or bungee jumping, chew on a gum. If we are eating something, our brain reasons it like ‘I would not be eating if I were in danger. So I must not be in danger’.

2. People don’t look at your personality first. People judge you automatically by your looks and then try to get to know your personality. But the second they don’t like your looks,they don’t get to know you.

3. When you first meet people try to notice their eye color while also smiling at them. It might be because you look for a second or two longer, but all I can tell you is that people really respond to it.

4. Pay attention to people’s feet. If you approach two people in the middle of a conversation, and they only turn their torsos and not their feet, they don’t want you to join in the conversation. Similarly if you are in a conversation with a coworker who you think is paying attention to you and their torso is turned towards you but their feet are facing in another direction, they want the conversation to end.

5. Foot-in-the-door phenomenon. People are more likely to agree to do a task for you if you ask them to do something simpler first. (Gradual Commitment… makes people think you like them). Alternatively you ask them to do an unreasonable task, and they’ll say no, so then you ask for what you wanted, a much more reasonable task, and they’re more likely to agree that way.

6. If you ask someone to do you a small favor, cognitive dissonance will make them believe that because they did that favor, they therefore must like you.

7. Avoid the sidewalk shuffle by looking intently over the person’s shoulder, or between people’s heads in a group. Your gaze shows them where you’re going. They’ll drift toward the opposing side, create a gap to avoid you.

8. When you’re studying or learning something new, teach a friend about it. Let them ask questions. If you’re able to teach something well, you understand it.

9. People will remember not what you said but how you made them feel.

10. For interviews I recommend altering your psychological state beforehand. Tell yourself “I’ve known these people all my life. We’re old friends catching up. I can’t wait to see them”. Visualize the experience, shaking hands, making eye contact, having conversation. What things can you not to wait to tell them? Hold an open pose…stand with your legs apart, hands on your hips, and shoulders back while doing this and SMILE. This may sound cliche but you are in charge of your own psychological state and the power of suggestion is strong.

11. My personal favorite is when people are angry at me; if I stay calm it will get them even angrier, and be ashamed about it after.

12. If you have a warm hand when you shake somebody’s hand, you immediately become a more desirable person to get along with.

13. People have a certain image of themselves and will fight tooth and nail to cling to it. Use this information wisely. You can make people dislike you by attacking their self-image.

14. False attribution of arousal. When you take somebody out on a first date, take them somewhere exciting that will get their heart beating. e.g. roller coaster or horror film. This gets their adrenaline up. It makes them think they enjoy spending time with you rather than the activity.

15. The key to confidence is walking into a room, and assuming everyone already likes you.

16. The physical effects of stress (increased breathing rate, heart rate etc.) mirror identically the physical effects of courage. So when you’re feeling stress from any situation immediately re-frame it: your body is getting ready to do courage, it’s Not feeling stress.

17. Refer to people you’ve just met by their name. People loving being referred to by their name, and it will establish a sense of trust and friendship right away.

18. If you make the biggest smile you can, you will automatically feel happier.

19. The moment your alarm wakes you up, immediately react by sitting up, pump your fists and shout “YEAH,” .

20. People are extraordinarily aware of their sense of touch. If someone (a member of the opposite sex?) ‘accidentally’ rests their knee on yours, let’s say, they know it’s there.

Wailers

I was perplexed when i saw the scythe and his blood ridden face.

He said, ‘I have come to reap your Soul.’

‘Give me ten years to meet the Love of My Life,’ I pleaded.

He went away saying, ‘Ten years it is.’

He came back after ten years.

He said, ‘Now is the Time.’

‘Give me ten years to live with the Love of My Life,’ I pleaded again.

He went away saying, ‘Ten years it is.’

He came back after ten years.

I was in a field sitting under the tree heartbroken.

He said, ‘I have come to reap your Soul.’

My voice trembled and i said, ‘She reaped my Soul before you did.’